| Strategy | Virtue | Generosity demonstrates… | Without it, risks becoming… |
|---|---|---|---|
| Wild | Independence | “I have enough to share.” | Isolated |
| Feral | Autonomy | “I freely accept responsibility.” | Irresponsible |
| Weed | Adaptability | “I share the opportunities I discover.” | Parasitic |
| Civilized | Cooperation | “I contribute beyond immediate self-interest.” | Obedient |
If I could give you one piece of financial advice, it would not necessarily be to save ten percent of your income, buy index funds, avoid credit-card debt, or start contributing to your retirement account while you are young. Those are all good ideas. But they assume you have already made a more fundamental decision. What kind of life do you want money to make possible? Recognizing this can empower you to choose your path with confidence.
I believe there are at least four answers. You can be wild. You can be civilized. You can be feral. Or you can be a weed. I don’t mean any of those as insults. In fact, I think humanity’s peculiar genius is that we have made all four possible.
We domesticated ourselves
Humans appear to have undergone something scientists call self-domestication. Over thousands of generations, we became better at tolerating one another. That sounds unimpressive until you consider the accomplishment. Put 10,000 chimpanzees in a city and see how it goes.
Humans learned to suppress some forms of reactive aggression, cooperate with unrelated individuals, divide labor, exchange goods, establish rules, punish cheaters, and trust people we have never met. Eventually we became capable of walking into a coffee shop operated by strangers, handing over symbols representing stored economic value, drinking something made from beans grown by people on another continent, checking messages transmitted through machines built by thousands of other strangers, and leaving without finding any of this remarkable.
We became domesticated. The word makes us uncomfortable because we imagine ourselves as the livestock, but domestication gave us something besides obedience. It gave us choices.
The civilization we built became an ecosystem so productive that human beings could adopt radically different strategies for living inside, or partly outside it.
If this is your path, reflect on your values and goals to determine which strategy, wild, domesticated, feral, or weed, resonates most with your vision for life. I am going to tell you how to be good at each one. And, more importantly, how to be generous.
If you choose to be wild
The wild strategy is the oldest. Produce as much of what you need as you reasonably can. Learn practical skills. Know how to grow something, repair something, build something, and cook something. Understand the land around you. Own useful tools. Cultivate relationships with people who would help you when things go wrong.
Your objective is not to become rich. It is to become capable.
A person with $20,000 in the bank, a paid-for house, a productive garden, good health, useful skills, and five neighbors who would show up tomorrow morning to rebuild the barn may be wealthier than someone with a million dollars who cannot survive three months without a paycheck.
If this is your path, be very careful about debt. Every recurring obligation exchanges a little independence for something you can have today. That doesn’t make debt evil. It makes it consequential.
Measure your success by a question conventional financial statements don’t ask: How much of what I need can I provide without asking permission from somebody else?
But wildness has its own moral danger. Independence can become isolation. You can become so proud of needing nobody that eventually nobody needs you. So if you choose the wild path, share.
Give someone vegetables from your garden. Help repair their roof. Teach a child how to use a saw. Let someone borrow your truck. Feed the person who arrives at your table hungry.
For most of human history, generosity wasn’t writing a check. It was sharing the things that kept people alive. Your greatest possession will be your independence. That means your greatest acts of generosity will sometimes require you to surrender a little of it. Let yourself be needed.
If you choose to be civilized
Don’t let anyone make you ashamed of this choice. Civilization is an astonishing human invention. You do not have to grow your food because someone else does it extraordinarily well. You don’t have to build your refrigerator, generate your electricity, manufacture your antibiotics, or pave the road outside your house.
You can become extraordinarily good at one thing and exchange the fruits of that specialization for the work of millions of other specialists.
If you choose this path, become useful. Learn something difficult. Become a nurse, carpenter, teacher, engineer, mechanic, scientist, accountant, plumber, programmer, or whatever else makes you want to get up in the morning. Become good enough that other people willingly exchange some of their productive effort for yours.
Then build claims against the enormous productive machine you are helping operate. Save money. Own a home if that makes sense for you. Buy diversified productive assets. Insure against catastrophes you cannot afford. Avoid debts that buy appearances rather than capability. Build a retirement account.
Understand what those assets really mean. Your retirement account does not contain thirty years of groceries. It contains claims on the future productivity of other people. That realization should produce some humility because the civilized path depends upon trust. You trust that money will retain value, contracts will be honored, markets will function, electricity will arrive, pensions will be paid, and strangers will continue doing their jobs. Recognizing this trust can foster security and appreciation for the systems supporting you.
Your financial objective is therefore to build a secure place for yourself within the cooperative system. But your danger is allowing security to become obedience. A large mortgage, two expensive cars, private-school tuition, credit-card balances, and a lifestyle requiring every dollar of your salary can turn an impressive income into a remarkably effective leash. So preserve enough financial space to say no occasionally.
And be generous in the way civilization uniquely allows you to be generous by helping strangers. Pay taxes without imagining that every dollar benefiting someone else has been stolen from you. Support libraries and schools your children don’t attend. Give to people whose names you will never know. Buy insurance that pools your good fortune with someone else’s catastrophe. Support institutions that preserve opportunities you may never personally use.
Our ancestors became extraordinarily good at helping relatives and neighbors. Civilization made something stranger possible: cooperation among people who will never meet. Participate in it.
If you choose to become feral
Perhaps you will try the civilized life and discover that you don’t like the bargain. That’s okay too. The feral person isn’t wild. A feral animal descends from domesticated ancestors. It carries capabilities acquired through domestication into a life outside its control. You can do that financially.
Learn everything civilization can teach you. Earn money. Acquire skills. Accumulate capital. Pay off your debts. Reduce your expenses. Buy a small house somewhere inexpensive. Install solar panels. Grow tomatoes. Work three months a year. Become a consultant. Retire at fifty. Sail around the world. Whatever version appeals to you.
The feral person’s definition of wealth is optionality. Your most useful financial calculation won’t be net worth.
It will be how long you can say no.
No to a boss. No to a client. No to a terrible job. No to moving somewhere you don’t want to live. No to compromising something important because you desperately need next Friday’s paycheck.
Someone earning $50,000 with $100,000 saved and almost no obligations may possess more practical freedom than someone earning $500,000 whose lifestyle consumes $495,000. If you choose this path, accumulate enough resources that participation becomes voluntary.
But recognize the contradiction. If your independence consists of living off a stock portfolio, you haven’t escaped civilization. Thousands of people still went to work this morning so the companies you own could earn profits.
Your independence rests partly upon their participation. Remember that. The moral danger of the feral life is confusing freedom from obligation with freedom from responsibility. So be the person who shows up.
Fix someone’s car. Take care of someone’s dog. Let someone sleep in your spare room. Teach the skill that made you independent. Help another person become capable enough to need less help tomorrow.
Your most precious possession is autonomy. So occasionally give some of it away. Choose to become responsible for someone besides yourself.
If you choose to be a weed
This one will require some explanation. People usually use weed to describe a plant they don’t want. I mean something slightly different.
A weed is an organism that discovers how to flourish in an environment created for something else.
We build a sidewalk. The dandelion finds the crack.
We build cities. Pigeons discover that skyscrapers make excellent cliffs.
Rats discover our sewers and garbage. Coyotes discover that suburbia contains an astonishing supply of rabbits, rodents, and occasionally unattended pet food.
The weed doesn’t escape the human ecosystem. It gets extraordinarily good at exploiting opportunities nobody intended to create. Humans can do this too.
If this is your nature, learn systems. Learn where incentives don’t align. Learn why two markets put different prices on the same thing. Learn why people discard valuable things. Learn what technology suddenly makes possible. Learn what bureaucracies overlook. Learn where regulation creates strange niches. Learn which resources sit unused because nobody has imagined another purpose for them.
Become an entrepreneur, artist, hacker, trader, inventor, reseller, independent programmer, or something for which we don’t yet have a name.
Don’t just ask what job is available. Ask what opportunity exists that nobody intended to create. Your greatest financial asset will be adaptability. You won’t necessarily have the largest paycheck or safest pension. Your security comes from believing that when circumstances change, you will notice something other people don’t.
But weeds have an obvious moral danger. They can become parasites.
There is a difference between discovering value nobody noticed and extracting value somebody else created. Learn that difference. If your prosperity requires the garden to die, you aren’t a successful weed. You’re a blight.
And this gives you a peculiar form of generosity. Share what you discover. Teach someone the trick. Release the software. Introduce two people who should know each other. Show someone the opportunity. Open the door you discovered.
Sometimes this will cost you. If your advantage comes from knowing something others don’t, sharing it can destroy the advantage. Do it occasionally anyway. Your most precious possession is advantage.
True generosity will sometimes mean giving it away.
You will probably be all four
I have described these as four paths, but life probably won’t be that neat. You might be wild in your youth, civilized when raising kids, an absolute weed in between youth and settled down, and feral when you retire.
Good. I don’t think these are tribes. They are strategies. And one of the things I find increasingly beautiful about human self-domestication is that it did not produce a single domesticated human being. It produced an ecosystem. Our extraordinary capacity for cooperation created enough surplus, security, and complexity to support radically different ways of engaging with the world.
The wild can preserve capabilities civilization forgets. The civilized can build institutions no individual could build alone. The feral can remind institutions that participation must retain an element of choice. The weeds can discover possibilities the designers of those institutions never imagined.
A healthy civilization may need all four. Too much wildness and we lose the enormous benefits of cooperation. Too much cultivation and we risk creating a compliant monoculture unable to adapt. Too much ferality and the institutions upon which even the feral depend begin to collapse. Too many weeds and eventually there is no garden left to exploit.
But eliminate the wild, and we lose resilience. Eliminate the domesticated, and we lose scale. Eliminate the feral, and we lose independence. Eliminate the weeds, and we lose adaptation.
So I don’t particularly care which one you become. I care whether you become good at it. And I care whether you become generous within it.
If you are wild, cultivate capability, and share what keeps you alive. If you are civilized, cultivate reliability, and extend the benefits of cooperation to strangers. If you are feral, cultivate independence, and voluntarily accept responsibility for others. If you are a weed, cultivate adaptability, and share some of the opportunities you discover. Because generosity isn’t giving away whatever is easiest for you to give. The real test is giving away something you value. For the wild, that may be independence. For the domesticated, security. For the feral, autonomy. For the weed, advantage.
I hope you become successful. I hope you acquire enough resources to live whatever life you choose. But I hope you learn one thing before you do. The purpose of becoming capable is not to need nothing from anyone. It is to reach the point where you have something worth giving to someone else.

